I'm standing in my kitchen tonight with no lights on, barefoot, moving the onions and garlic to this side of caramel and adding pasta sauce. On this new alkalizing diet I have taken up, I can't (shouldn't) have tomatoes. The sky is burning out pink that's reflecting on the milk factory behind my house, and it's cool and feels like September. And a taste of the sauce (like my ersatz madeline cookie), and suddenly I remember all the meals I had at my godparents' house, of garlic bread and pasta, and sitting at their dining room table which always slanted down...Your skin turns over every 28 days, and every cell in your body replaces itself in a year, and how no wonder I feel so far away from home. I'm not composed of the same cells, the same food, the same soil, the same air. I am standing at this place that feels a little free, a little unmoored.
Last night I had a dream that I had to spend all my vacation savings on a trip to LA, and I was at a store with circle row after row of nearly impassibly-tight clothing racks paying for a shirt for the trip, when I saw that one of the quarters the cashier was going to give me was a 1949 (silver) quarter. The clink of that metal against the other coins was like a shiver. And, then, the cashier said (although she didn't know my name and I paid in cash), "Oh, we have your credit card here. We've had it here for months." But, I don't even own 3 credit cards, and then I was frantic that someone was charging on my account, or I hadn't paid my bill, and I was late to catch that flight.
Most of my anger has washed away, there are just light but wide trails of silt where all my upset and fears overwhelmed me. But wasn't there a thing comforting in being that flooded for a while? At least I had some consistency in emotion and thought. Now, today, I'm oddly silent, maybe content, or maybe resigned.
I read this letter I wrote to Jon right around the time that I posted the last entry here, and I talked about how we were on the brink of the rest of our lives - poised or teetering? Where we stand now, like my brother and I holding onto trees at the edge of a canal during a hurricane in Canada, as the winds swept the waters up over the dock and nearer our feet. I had lied to my parents, who were in the hotel room, and told them that we were going to get ice at the ice machine. Really, I had wanted to see what it was like to walk through something that powerful. The way I can't always remember why I've hooked myself to this relationship. The moments of clarity, of reminiscing, of regret, of hope, of possibility, all tangled and thrashing. I remember my hair whipping at my face when my brother and I were holding ourselves against the storm. I wanted to stay there, I wanted to go back into the hotel. I didn't want to be inside looking out the sliding glass doors at the majesty and strength of something I had never experienced before, but outside, I didn't know how long I could hang on. It got tiring and it got boring. But, it was worse inside - cooped up as the world changed just outside of my reach - my touch.